In anticipation of Father’s Day, we wanted to feature this important blog post from Evie Magazine. This magazine provides fascinating work mainly in women’s issues and relationships but is also very male positive.

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Recent decades have brought seismic shifts in how we parent. Dads today are far more hands-on than their own fathers or grandfathers ever were—changing diapers in the middle of the night, juggling work with story time, and carving out precious paternity leave when they can. As I stroll around Brooklyn, New York, I see so many fathers pushing strollers and playing with their kids at the park. I’m pretty sure this wouldn’t have been the case a few decades ago. This evolution is wonderful in many ways.

Fathers and mothers are different, and each bring unique benefits to raising children. Dads often excel at rough-and-tumble play that builds resilience and confidence in kids, while modeling strength, respect to authority, problem-solving, and emotional steadiness. Moms, on the other hand, provide that irreplaceable nurturing core. Together, they create balance. But if we truly want fathers to stay deeply involved, we must take their unique challenges seriously instead of assuming they’re fine as long as mom and baby are okay.

A groundbreaking study published just last week in JAMA Network Open drives this point home. Researchers tracked more than one million fathers in Sweden whose children were born between 2003 and 2021. What they found is eye-opening: a father’s risk for depression and stress-related disorders jumps by more than 30 percent toward the end of his child’s first year. The risk actually decreases during pregnancy and the first few months postpartum, likely because everyone is in survival mode, laser-focused on the newborn. Anxiety and substance-related issues return to pre-pregnancy baselines by the one-year mark. And depression and stress? They spike later, when the initial adrenaline fades and the long haul of fatherhood truly sets in.

A father’s risk for depression and stress-related disorders jumps by more than 30 percent toward the end of his child’s first year.

Dr. Khatiya Moon, medical director for the collaborative care program at Northwell Health, put it perfectly in the NYPost: “Screening for mental health concerns in fathers is important and is something that isn’t really done very much. Maybe if we did more screening, we’d have more opportunity to catch fathers when they’re struggling and support them.”

She notes that dads often slip into a purely supportive role early on, prioritizing mom and baby’s vulnerability. That selflessness is noble, but it takes a toll. “I wonder if that eventually gets more difficult to sustain,” she said. Fathers also lack the community moms enjoy through prenatal appointments, mommy groups, and endless baby visits. No one really asks Dad seriously how he’s sleeping or feeling. That needs to change, starting at home.

This isn’t just about feelings, though. Did you know a man’s biology also changes when he has a child? Science confirms it. Studies show that testosterone levels often drop significantly in new fathers—sometimes by 25 percent or more—especially among those most involved in hands-on care like feeding, bathing, and playing.

Lower testosterone isn’t a sign of weakness, but it does appear to shift a man’s priorities away from competition or mating efforts toward nurturing. This makes sense. After all, we were biologically designed for family, and family was biologically designed to make communities less aggressive, more safe and unified.

Oxytocin, the “bonding hormone,” rises in dads too following a birth, promoting physical closeness, emotional attunement, and that protective instinct we see when a father scoops up a hurt or crying baby. Cortisol, the stress hormone, spikes helpfully when dads hear infant cries (helping them respond fast) but drops during skin-to-skin contact or play, reinforcing positive caregiving loops.

Brain imaging reveals neuroplasticity in fathers as well—structural and functional changes in areas tied to empathy, emotion regulation, and reward processing. These shifts happen through real-world father-infant interactions, not pregnancy hormones. In short, fatherhood literally rewires a man to be a better dad. The best version of himself for himself, his family and his community.

But when those changes collide with sleep deprivation, financial pressure, relationship strain, and societal expectations to “man up,” the result can be isolation, irritability, or full-blown depression. One study even linked lower testosterone nine months postpartum with higher postpartum depression risk in dads, while very high levels sometimes correlated with hostility in the environment.

We ignore this at our own detriment.

We ignore this at our own detriment. As we’ve discussed before, involved fathers produce better outcomes for children: higher academic achievement, stronger emotional regulation, and lower rates of behavioral problems. Kids with present, engaged dads are less likely to struggle with anxiety or delinquency later. Strong father-child bonds also protect marriages; couples who navigate the transition together report higher satisfaction and lower divorce risk.

Yet our culture still treats paternal mental health as an afterthought or even a joke. Postpartum support is overwhelmingly mom-centric (rightly so in many ways—mothers face their own hormonal tsunami). But dads deserve more than a pat on the back and “you got this, man.” We need practical, targeted help: routine mental-health screening for fathers at pediatric visits (just like we do for moms), dad-specific, male-led support groups or apps that normalize the struggle, and encouragement for couples counseling during those big transitions. Employers could expand meaningful paternity leave without stigma. Churches, neighborhoods, and extended families can build “dad communities” the way we’ve built them for moms, like Saturday morning breakfasts with other fathers sharing the events of the week, a movie they watched, or war stories.

We also fail to acknowledge how men’s careers are impacted when they have a newborn at home. The sleep deprivation and being financially stretched carries over into their work environments, sometimes decreasing their productivity and challenging their professional identity. This can take a significant toll on a man’s mental health as well.

We already have issues within our feminized mental health system when it comes to men. We’ve been telling men they must change to work with the system. But maybe we need to change the system so it better addresses men’s needs. We can do this by creating more male-led and male-focused therapy solutions, ones that fit with the way they are. We must also encourage more young men to enter therapy career fields. Only 20% of psychologists are male today, and boys and men are paying the price for it.

Dr. Donghao Lu, the study’s corresponding author, nailed the urgency: “The delayed increase in depression… underscores the need to pay attention to warning signs of mental ill-health in fathers long after the birth of their child.” The first year isn’t just about baby milestones. It’s when dads quietly wrestle with identity, purpose, and the weight of providing while bonding. If we help them through it—through honest conversations, practical relief, resources and zero judgment—we get more present fathers, happier marriages, and thriving kids.

A family where mom and dad are both struggling in silence isn’t good for anyone, least of all the baby.

But support for dads shouldn’t stop once the baby phase is over. Fatherhood doesn’t end when children grow up, and neither do the struggles. Men carry heavy burdens at every stage: the relentless financial pressures, the anxiety over their kids’ direction in life, the deep worries about their mental health, and the constant fear of how the world will treat them. These challenges don’t magically disappear when kids turn eighteen.

We need real, ongoing support for men through every chapter of fatherhood.

I’m not suggesting we downplay mothers’ challenges, and supporting dads doesn’t mean we stop supporting moms. These aren’t competing causes. Postpartum depression in moms is real and devastating, and we’ve made great strides in destigmatizing it. I’ve had two family members experience postpartum depression, and it was heartbreaking. The progress we’ve made for mothers is worth protecting. But let’s extend that compassion to dads without pretending men and women experience parenthood identically. Biology, roles, and wiring differ, and that’s a good thing that should be respected. Celebrating those differences while refusing to leave anyone behind is how we build more resilient families. Both parents matter. Both deserve support. And a family where mom and dad are both struggling in silence isn’t good for anyone, least of all the baby.

If we do more to help struggling men and dads—through screening, community, biology-informed understanding, and cultural support—I believe we will see more involved dads and stronger families. The data backs it. The science backs it. And children’s futures depend on it.