Before we get into this week’s blog, the Gurian Institute wants to announce that the Early Bird registration deadline for our Winter Training Institute at The Lovett School in Atlanta, GA has been extended to December 6, 2019.  Because December 1, the previous deadline, fell at the end of the Thanksgiving weekend, we have had potential attendees request an early bird deadline extension.  Thank you for asking, and we are glad to do it.  To learn more about our Winter Training Institute and to register, click here:  https://gurianinstitute.com/events/gurian-winter-institute-2020/.

Thirty years ago, I met one of the leaders of a national movement to reinvent male development, Dr. Jed Diamond.  We have been friends and colleagues ever since.  Dr. Diamond is a New York Times bestselling author and renowned therapist who uses neuro-biology as a centerpiece of his work.   His presentation of male development in all its aspects–nature, nurture, and culture–is profoundly moving, and he has a way of writing and speaking that makes sense!  When Jed told me about his new book, 12 Rules for Good Men, I asked if I could review it and Jed said yes.  I can tell you, this book is a powerful culmination of decades of research and work with men, women, and families.

Jed told me recently:   “This book offers one simple message:  Men are good and can become great. Women care about men and want to help and support them, but often don’t know how. Both men and women need to understand what we’ve learned about men in the last 50 years.”  The 12 Rules in the book are presented clearly and with anecdote, story, science, and practical takeaways.  Read more here, and enjoy this book.  — Michael Gurian

“In some of my previous books,” Jed continues, “including Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places and Male Menopause,  I explored the underlying causes of many of the issues facing men today including:

• How to have a deeply satisfying relationship that lasts through time.
• How to address the physical, psychological, hormonal, and sexual changes that occur as we age.
• How to deal with male irritability and anger.

12 Rules for Good Men brings together all my work into one, easy to read, book.   In it, I detail the scientific basis for understanding why men are the way they are, do the things they do, and feel the things they feel. It addresses 21 keys for understanding the good men revolution and cites 75 references for further study.

12 Rules for Good Men addresses a number of important issues:

• Why loneliness is the greatest killer of men and why all men need to be in a men’s group.
• How the Man Box restricts who we can become and how we can break free.
• The secret history of maleness and why men are good and can become great.
• Why men frighten women, how women shame men, and what both can do to heal.
• How the 5 stages of love can guide and enlighten your relationships.
• What is at the root of male anger and how to treat the Irritable Male Syndrome.

I’ve also created an additional resource to accompany the book, “Everything You Wanted to Know About Men: The Good Men Revolution” for free. Finally, as an additional “thank you” for ordering right away, I’ll send the first 200 people who order, personally signed and numbered copies of 12 Rules for Good Men. With 15,000 people on our mailing list, I’m sure these special copies will go fast, so get ready to order yours tomorrow.”

To get the book and additional resource, go to: https://menalive.com/12-rules-for-good-men/.

Jed Diamond, Ph.D is one of the world’s leading experts on men. His books Male Menopause, Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places, and The Irritable Male Syndrome have met with world-wide acclaim and been translated into 18 languages. He is a member of the International Society of Men’s Health and a founding member of the American Society of Men’s Health. He can be reached at www.MenAlive.com.

More Praise for the Book:

“I’ve known and appreciated Jed’s work for more than 40 years and he has been doing men’s work for 50 years now. 12 Rules for Good Men is a wonderfully helpful guide for both men and women. Jed gives you the tools you need to succeed in love and in life. Some of the rules will surprise you. All will challenge you to be a better person.”—John Gray, best-selling author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

 “Jed Diamond continually stuns me with how much I never knew I never knew. He bravely asks questions most of us would let languish in shadow, and answers with keen insight, deep compassion, rich knowledge, and true wisdom. His work, and this book, are a revelation, and invaluable to us all.” —David L. Katz, MD, MPH, Founder and President of the True Health Initiative, author, The Truth About Food

 I absolutely loved this book. It is a unique in combining evolutionary science with Jed’s fifty years of practical experience working with men and their families. His 12 Rules are simple, yet profoundly helpful, pathways for addressing the complex problems men and women face today. If you want to learn to live fully, love deeply, and make a positive difference in the world, buy this book now. Even better, get one for yourself and another for a man you know who needs to read it.” —Rebecca D. Costa, author of international best seller, The Watchman’s Rattle: A Radical New Theory of Collapse

 “Jed is a thoughtful and sage guide who shares his fifty years of experience doing men’s work to help us become the good men we know we can be — and women will also get a deeper understanding of what good men are doing with their lives. This is a magnificent book.”  —Chip Conley, author, Wisdom@Work: The Making of a Modern Elder, Airbnb Strategic Advisor for Hospitality and Leadership

“Twelve Rules is more than twelve rules. It is a brilliant integration of Jed Diamond’s distinctive gifts of speaking personally even as he takes us on a journey to why manhood is the way it is, what needs to be preserved, and how we can release ourselves from the Man Box. It is an essential book for anyone who wishes to become a better man, or bring out the best in a man.   —Warren Farrell, author, The Boy Crisis and The Myth of Male Power

“Dr. Jed Diamond is one of America’s most passionate advocates for men. 12 Rules for Good Men is an excellent guide to real manhood. The book is packed with science, wisdom, and practical stories that bring men’s lives into powerful focus. I hope it will be read not just by men, but also by the women and partners who love them.” —Michael Gurian, New York Times Bestselling Author of Saving Our Sons